Okay up front, I (nb 23) am white. I am not an authority on race relations, but I picked up The Right to Sex by Amia Srinivasan the other day and it caused me to rethink a lot of the things that I have been seeing in different spaces on Reddit and elsewhere. The main thing being the way that the femdom community broadly treats race, specifically black sexuality.

I only got through the first chapter of The Right to Sex, but there was some thought provoking content concerning the hypersexuality of black men and women. To paraphrase the thoughts of the author and her references to other thinkers, such as Angela Davis, black men's historical representation as hyper-sexual, aggressive, and animalistic is a fundamental part of the process of dehumanization of black people as a group. The extremely racist movie "Birth of a Nation" centers around the KKK saving a white woman from and killing a black rapist. Black women have been historically represented as promiscuous, slutty, and similarly unable to control their "animalistic urges." This has lead to a public perception of black woman as "unrapable" that results in black women not being believed by police or in court when they report sexual assault at a disproportionate rate compared to white women. That brings me back to the content here on reddit and other porn sites.

If you spend any time in communities like r/keyholdercaption and r/femdomcaptions you will frequently come across material that involves race play. I had always just scrolled past this kind of content. I'm not into race play and have always found it a bit of a turn off. But I did a little digging and found some content that I think has no place on this site or anywhere, to be frank.

My issues is that there are whole communities devoted to these kinds of fetishes that feature sexualized race dynamics in a rather disturbing way once you understand the history of how black sexuality has been demonized in the past and the very real consequences that it has for people of color. I have a hard time believing that people can separate reality from fantasy if they spend a lot of time consuming content that actively peddles in the animalistic sexuality of black people. Posts that specifically focus on getting cucked by "black bulls" are some of the most frequent posts I saw. Also I frequently see white women with black strap-ons posting about their "big black cocks," and to be totally honest that seems like straight up sexual black face. This also isn't exclusive to black people. The hyper-sexualization of asian women, the stereotypes around effete asian men, the assumed purity of white women, etc. all can have serious real world implications for how people of color are viewed by society and treated by the justice system.

Finally, I'm not here to tell you that you're racist if you have a thing for black guys. To be honest, I have a thing for black guys. But that's because I grew up in a diverse area and naturally found myself being attracted to the people around me. I'm not against interracial porn either. I have watched and intentionally sought out interracial porn in the past, but that was normally because I was seeing a person of color at the time and wanted to imagine them while I masturbated to the scene. I'm also not against race play entirely. If two or more consenting adults want to enjoy race play, there is nothing wrong with that. What I do think is a problem is the posting of this deeply racist content to femdom forums and the existence of forums that exist just to accumulate that kind of content. I think that we as a community need to seriously think about how we talk about and sexualize race, and we need to make a concerted effort to do a better job. Let me know what you think.