Yes of course! Thanks for saying. I certainly don’t react, fetishize the person saying it or do anything other than smile. It just struck me as funny so I thought it might amuse others too, and that here I might find a safe place to make a comment which like minded people might understand and smile at a little too.

Oh I’m south west UK too! Hi 😊. Unfortunately I haven’t experienced one of those yet though …

I was in Chicago just now, I’m on the plane home and thinking about it. I haven’t spent enough time in the US to know the differences, but it was the enthusiastic, emphatic “Yes” at the beginning that kind of carried through the “Ma’am” so the whole thing felt like an affirmation of agreement and obedience which I think was my undoing, although I also think that a southern drawled version mentioned in posts above probably also would be quite effective!

But ironically this all started years ago in London, I was much younger and running out of Oxford St tube for work, feeling quite happy with myself (I remember it being a good hair day) in a work suit and heels - to set the scene, and there was this handsome soldier in uniform outside selling Remembrance Day poppies. So I stopped to buy one and he did this sort of half salute and said “thank you Ma’am”, but it was the way he looked at me when he said it, so respectful, devoted and like he’d save me from any foe / but also carry my bags and open all doors (to my girlish imagination and if that can be conveyed in an instant). It did something irreversible to my insides and I was never the same since 😂, it’s probably the main reason I ended up how I am now - although that journey took a long time.

Unfortunately a lot of “mate” and “luv” (or variations of) 😂. But if you go somewhere fancy sometimes Sir still will be used for men, women - Ma’am or Madam but it’s dying out. Even when the person is being very polite and respectful they’ll usually not use an address at all, maybe it will happen in a nice hotel or restaurant.

I think what had affected me so much was the people I met in America had much better delivery (they did it so nicely), the “yes” at the beginning, and just how commonplace it was - which I’m not used to, for me it was unexpected in normal places like coffee shops etc and that’s what took me by surprise

Yes you’re so right! There definitely were some who did it with a flirt or a look and I just … knew. I think that’s what got me started. Contrary to what a couple of people have said ⬆️, I don’t think I’m better than anyone, ever, and I know better than to go slavering over innocent people just doing their job. I think we’re all here on this sub because perhaps our preferences aren’t “normal”, we can’t help our deep innermost desires and how we subconsciously experience the things around us, but we most certainly are responsible for how we behave and treat others.

But then there was the passport guy… who I was very respectful of (he had a gun), who looked at my ID and then me, and then as he gave it back drawled “Miss (my first name), beautiful”. I nearly died of lust. I don’t think I imagined that 😂. No doubt he was being inappropriate too in the eyes of some, but it made my day.

They all have plane WiFi nowadays on long flights - but if you’re interested it was a Boeing 767 to be precise :)