I'm overweight (working on it, down to 235 lbs from 310) and while I think I have a lot of confidence there's no avoiding the fact that I'm just not good looking. Constantly bloodshot eyes (inherited from my dad, not a lifestyle issue), huge nose (again, thanks dad) and I'm starting to bald in my mid-20's (I love you dad).

I took a look at r/FemdomPersonals and it looks like everyone either wants a petite femboy, or a ripped bodybuilder.

I know there's the cliche of "there's somebody for everyone" but it's absolutely demoralizing to look at, especially when I already feel undesirable to begin with. I guess I'm just asking are people in kink generally picky when it comes to physiques or am I Just grossly overestimating it?

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Edit: I'm really sorry, I wrote this in a time of self confidence plummeting. I understand that a lot of making myself more attractive is to improve on myself, and I am! I feel like this post is a waste of everyone's time, since as I said it was just written when I was feeling really down on myself.