It’s been very difficult to find something consistent in this world BDSM and I’m honestly starting to believe that it doesn’t exist.

I’ve been dibbling and dabbling in BDSM for a while and have had multiple opportunities to live out my own fantasies. Both online and in person. I’ve had some wonderful and terrible partners. Each of them teaching me something about myself and my goal as a mistress. However, the common theme from both sides is that all of them are temporary. I have a very select few submissives that I’ve kept in contact with for a while, but they’re all online. All of my in person subs and potentials have all gone.

I’ve changed my approach and started to be a bit more “professional” as a mistress. I’ve developed a vetting process (not sure how effective it is) to weed out the kink dispensers and actually stated my goals. Doing so, I feel like I have an even harder time finding a potential as none of them value my time.

Putting a price on my mistress service can is a huge hang up for a lot of submissives, but my time isn’t something I should have to sacrifice for one’s own selfish pleasures.

What can I do to stay hopeful? Are there any other approaches? How can I attract serious potentials?