the title is dramatic but it’s been upsetting me recently. this realization hit since ive been trying out tinder. i was surprised to find an attractive femboy (since, let’s be honest, many are just hot messes) and matched, but got left on read after a bit of chatting. I think he was only looking for sex while I like to build an emotional connection before hookups. this irritated me more than it should of and i got to thinking why.

it’s depressing feeling like my dating pool is so boxed in. It isn’t just a kink thing, but I like to be dominant in a relationship aswell. i match with guys, get to talking, hookup, but it’s not fufilling and no one understands the appeal of the dynamic unless they are into it already. so unfulfilling I would rather notget dick than fuck a vanilla guy. my last long term sub relationship ended last year and I feel like I’m going mad.

any advice for dating in the kink scene? i just want a normal ass guy that will call me mommy when we’re alone. fetlife is a bit too much for me, especially because most of the users are 25 which is outside of my dating pool. I have some nods to femdom in my profile but don’t want to out my kinks to thousands of people. i have a remote job and am not taking classes this semester so there isn’t much room to meet a large volume of people and find someone likeminded that way.