Before reading: the words "feminine" and "masculine" will be used a lot in this post, not because I thing they truthfully mirrow a reality, but because they adress realities we are all familiar with.

I got to know the feminization fetish over a year ago. As I understand it, is being humiliated because of using clothing and take roles of traditional femininity. That didn't sound right to me morally because 1) I don't think feminine things are humiliating and 2) I don't believe there are feminine nor masculine things (outside tradition of course). In my childhood I was told several times I wasn't masculine enough, or that I was feminine (in not so polite manners). Fast forward to today, I sometimes wear make up when I go out with friends (mind that I'm a cisgender male) or dress clothes from the women section, because I like it and I think it makes me look good. And even if I think rationally is not humiliating to dress like that, I still feel that way when people stare at me or when I encounter old classmates or neighbors, because of what they'll think about me.

I understand the appeal of taking feminine roles (in the context of a session) because of the humiliating context that we live in, but it doesn't feel right to me. Because instead of fighting those traditional statements about how a man or a woman should be, we kind of reinforced them. If a Domme tried to degrade me in a BDSM context because of that, I might enjoy the moment but after that I would feel terrible because that would mean I'm humiliating myself when I go out in a more "femenine" fashion.

Before you say it, I'm not trying to kink shame anyone. But I would like to know how other people feel about the feminization fetish specially if you agree that there aren't masculine or feminine clothes, toys... Because I know for a fact that many people who agrees with the latter love feminization, so I want to know how you justify it in your head (if you do) or what you think about it. I believe I'm kind of confused about it and I don't know how to feel about it, so any insight or thing I may not be seeing is welcome.

Edit: orthography.