Hey I'm Jamie, a 26 year old transwoman. I've noticed that a large amount of femdom in general is cis and hetero, which of course makes sense because the large majority of people are cis and hetero. I've also seen a lot, not as much but significant, amount of bi/lesbian femdoms out there. But that's where I tend to find my problem.

I've noticed that very rarely femdoms who are looking for subs tend to accept or want trans people as their sub. I've seen mostly either lesbian or straight femdoms. For the lesbians, transwomen are often viewed as men. For the straight femdoms, we are viewed as women. Even with a bi dom I had, me being trans became the reason we stopped talking.

Everyone is allowed their preference and I'm sure there are plenty of doms out there who not only like trans subs but maybe even prefer them. There's all kinds out there. I've just had a very hard time finding them.

So my basic question is where to look? I want to do something online to build trust and then eventually have an in person situation. I'd prefer a non findom or pro domme situation as I don't like paying for sex/kink, personally, but I support all of you who do it. If people wanna pay for it, take it girl! I'm also polyamorous with a nesting partner.

Any advice?