I've been on a journey of self-discovery and self-advocacy in this new year. So far, it's been pretty successful. :)

One big thing on my NYE Resolutions this year was to self-collar myself. ...but I'm a Domme? Well, technically a switch, but focusing this year on my Dominance since I've had so much time to learn about my submission but not about my own Dominance.

I know it sounds weird. Unorthodox. But BDSM is so personal and can be done in so many different ways, and this is just how I've been able to incorporate my FemDomme in my daily life without a partner.

I made a list of the goals and objectives I wanted to accomplish and focus on this year in terms of my own journey into FemmeDomme.

• I bought myself sexy heels that I adore (and am learning to walk in, one step at a time!) • I focused on self care routines. Worshipping myself and my body, making sure to pay attention to my body's desires and just its fluctuations throughout the day • I started researching and making notes and lists of the kinks I liked and what I didn't, and what I want to explore • I started working on making and sticking to my own personal boundaries and really becoming a self-advocate, not allowing others to diminish my worth or let them cross lines I wasn't comfortable with

And I also started looking for a necklace that would be a symbol of my own Dominance to myself - a symbol of my hard work, of my self-love and my promise to myself that I will never allow others to push my boundaries again. A symbol of a strong, sexy, independent woman who won't put up with anything less than what she deserves and desire. And who takes action and goes for the things she wants without other's opinions getting in the way of her confidence and ability.

And it arrived today. I searched for months for the perfect one and I found it, and I bought it without a second thought.

And putting it on today is a choice. I will have a proper ceremony on Friday where I have plans on treating myself to a fancy dinner and a relaxing bath and making sure I remind myself of my own promises to myself. But today I needed that symbol. Today was hard for me for some reason, and coming home and being able to open that necklace that I've been waiting for was just the reminder I needed to keep my chin up so my tiara doesn't fall, and to keep strutting in my heels.

Apologies for the long post, but I don't have anyone I was able to talk to about this prescious moment for myself and just thought I'd share some positivity :)

I am a self-collared Domme because I am the only one who can keep myself accountable for my own choices and decisions. And the promise to always keep my own best imterest at heart and continue my journey of self-love, self-advocacy, and self-care is a powerful one. And one I won't take for granted.

And I'll have the reminder around my neck as a symbol for the days onward of my journey and hard work. 💝