My SO, who greatly enjoys the femdom play we've recently started, joked that I'd majorly shifted her Overton window for kink. And I think the Overton window phenomenon is a fascinating way to look at femdom in relationships.

With femdom (and maybe with kink in general, though I can't speak as confidently about that) there seems to be a common pattern of escalation and intensification: what starts out as simply introducing "good boy" to the bedroom can over the months and years become chastity, pegging, sissification, denial, and so on. Maybe this is because the male sub knew what he was into from the beginning and slowly introduced it, or maybe there was a "turning point" kink for the domme where the play became deeply exciting or the relationship's power structure shifted in a tangible way (chastity and pegging, for example, seem to do this often).

In other words, people may not know how into something they are until they try it, and when they love it, it has a domino effect—even if that takes a long time.

Do you think this is a valid assessment, a real pattern? Have you experienced it in your own relationships? Was there a noticeable turning point, a "Pandora's box" kink? I'm particularly curious if and how kinks that began as hard limits eventually became soft limits and soft limits no limits at all. As a result of your femdom journey, have you started entertaining or doing fantasies that in the beginning you never thought would happen?

Thanks for reading.