Curious how the other femdommes keep themselves sane existing online? Because despite being explicit in multiple places ( this site and others ) about being a switch and looking to explore more of my submissive side right now or only exclusively looking for in-person relationship focused partners ( and I am selective ) I get spammed with men looking for me fill their holes which is not even my strong interest.

I just feel with each passing day though comments are less humorous and more just disheartening. I just feel more of a porn category than a person—-especially factoring being a black femme and the ungodly number of racialized ebony goddess worship ( which I despise because I’m not into racialized play or even Goddess play for that matter. ) I just feel like my interests don’t really matter even though I have it plastered everywhere in my profile.

I just random strangers who aren’t even local which sucks because I’m a sadist and like to inflict pain in person or use my submissive’s dick in person or just couple who keep wanting to dominate the man or teach the girlfriend how to be dominant which is bizarre when nowhere did I mention an interest in couples? Plus for couples there are countless resources on how to be dominant ( like engage with the community/go a munch/workshop ) or I dunno hire a provider?

So many requests to serve me feel like fantasies better explored with a professional than with a lifestyle person.

It also hurts because I am a domme, and explore a lot with my boyfriends. I do participate in my community and love workshops or reading books. I love everything about it and how it enriches my life it’s just the perversion of strangers make want to remove all evidence of being domme from my pages.

What do you do? What communities are out there centered more about the femdommes than the men? Appreciate all feedback.