Throughout the years, i've been with multiple dom-leaning switches who attempted to dom me since i had never tried that before, but things always ended with them submitting to me. Not because i would brat or try to force them into submission (quite the opposite, i was extremely obedient and cooperative), rather, they themselves naturally ended up losing their "domness". And i don't mean they just wanted me to top, i mean they go fully into subspace, giving me control, begging, refering to me with titles... The whole thing. and when asked, they all would always say the same. My dom energy, as they called it, seems to he too high even when i'm not domming, and my looks (broad, hairy, strong facial features...), voice, mannerisms, personality etc. don't seem to help it.

I am a switch (although practically only a sub now), but i've always done my best to consciously tone down my masculinity, since that what they wanted... I try not touching or grabbing the way i usually do, not being firm in my speech, softening ny gaze, using a higher pitch, being suuuper good and obedient and such, but it seems to not work anyways. Also, as a note, I hadn't tried things with exclusive dommes because i just couldn't find one that wasn't either a findomme, too rough, or simply not compatible with me.

I'm scared i will never get a mommy, that nobody will find me "domable", no matter how much i willingly submit, how obedient, excited and puppy-like i am, how much i crave being babied, pampered and praised...

Am i wrong? Do i just need time and find the right one? I'll be reading you :(

Edit: added details i gave in responses to questions