We started with denial being used in a few ways:

1 - As a consequence for certain transgressions: I’d be in denial but still expected to pleasure him at any time. Example - being on ‘Anal Only’.

2 - To get me in a submissive mindset ahead of maintenance sessions.

3 - Any time he requests it to prepare to serve him. Example - he might tell me to edge and deny all day to prepare to serve him at night.

Updates: These are all working as intended, but we’ve moved towards denial being my default state now. I’m very aware that I’m not allowed to cum without permission. And that the consequences would be severe if I did. I’m also aware that I’m only granted permission to cum after providing him a significant amount of pleasure. I need to service him for at least 1 to 2 hours before he considers letting me cum. What I’m finding is that I need to be denied for a few days at least before I’m desperate/needy enough to service him well enough to earn an orgasm. So denial has become my default.

I’m finding denial truly improves our dynamic. It makes me much more submissive and focused on serving. A few mantras - good girls don’t cum - good girls serve, obey, and deny - good girls focus on pleasing Sir

I’m realizing that an orgasm makes me a worse submissive because I’m less focused on serving and pleasing. So being in denial is necessary for me.