I have a very strong orgasm denial kink but have struggled to find the right partner, even online. Things often start out great, but they often want to then make me cum after a few days or a week. To me, that is more orgasm control vs orgasm denial. I get that kinks don’t always match up, but I wish they could be more clear about expectations upfront. Denial to me is denial. No cumming. It takes me completely out of headspace when given a task to cum after a week because I’ve been a good girl. Or worse…. Being made to “earn an orgasm”. I want to please and submit, but a reward isn’t earning an orgasm. This is more of a vent than anything but thought this group may understand