A little about me - I am a 34M (married/dead bedroom) and I've been in and out of sub/domme dynamics over the past couple years. There is just something so freeing about giving up control to someone else and not having / need to think for myself all the time.

The chemistry in this dynamic is very important to me - I am not looking for someone who will be a mean domme. I am perfectly ok with a stern / firm domme but not mean for the sake of it. I like to spend a couple days getting to know the other person and making sure we click before becoming vulnerable and opening myself up to you. I view this as I would any other personal relationship - it needs be mutually beneficial and a safe space for both people.

I work from home most of the time (EST) so I usually am available throughout the day - interactions at night are a little bit more tricky when I'm not home alone.

Below is a kink list with everything that I can think of but I might miss something so if you have any questions, just ask!

• anal play (started a few months ago but haven’t done it recently - I’m open to re-exploring it)
• bondage
• breath play (light)
• CBT / ball stretching (light)
• Chastity
• Chores (domestic service/housework)
• Chosen clothing for
• Chosen food for
• Degradation (light)
• Edging / orgasm control / denial
• Humiliation (light)
• Kneeling

Limits: Scat, blood, self-harm.

Gray area: water sports - this can be a open conversation. There are elements that appeal to me but other areas that don’t.

I use Telegram as my method of communication - it has some security features that I like. I’m not opposed to providing content (pictures / videos) but we need to work up to it and I need to know you’re a trustworthy person. I like using pictures and videos as a gift for my domme but I don’t want it to be a demand. So I know you’ve read this far, tell me your favorite kind of dessert in the subject line or in your reply.

Trust, consent, respect, and a safe dynamics are all huge components for me.

I hope to hear from you!