I'm looking to meet a guy for a committed IRL relationship with the potential to explore submission and denial. I'm looking for love and a relationship, I'm not in a rush and happy to wait to find the right relationship.

I'm passionate about volunteering and making a difference in my community and standing up for the rights of minority groups, I volunteer with local Pride Parades and events, I host a Ukrainian refugee in my home and help with other refugee charities, I campaign for peace and a ceasefire in Gaza, I work as a scientist trying to drive positive changes, and I volunteer on my local parish council. I have changed to a pescatarian diet to reduce my environmental impact and try to live sustainably. These things are really important to me and so I'm looking to date someone with similar values and priorities.

DO NOT CONTACT ME IF YOU LIVE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY, or if you are just looking for a fantasy or just chatting online, or if you are married.

Vetting process:

-you must prove you live in my area and be genuine

-you must be willing to meet within 1 week of messaging

-you must be ok with not discussing kink in-depth before meeting (A few basic questions to determine potential compatibility are acceptable).

-DO NOT ADDRESS ME AS MISTRESS or any other BS. I expect you to be respectful. I'm not an object or a fantasy, I'm a person.

-I'm looking for someone slim/skinny, 30-45yrs old, not bald.

-Ideally open to a loving commited polyamorous relationship (you would also be welcome to have other meaningful relationships).

Myself: I'm a very physically affectionate and loving woman, I'm slim, blonde, blue eyes, 162cm / 5'6, 52kg/8 stone.

Vanilla interests include: socialism (similar politics to Bernie Sanders), volunteering, reading, learning languages, games and board games, sustainability, anti-war/pro-ceasefire.

If you think we might be compatible then let me know by telling me about what vanilla interests we have in common and what are things which are important in your life or that you care about.