I’m looking for a platonic, friendship-based dynamic with a dominant woman. I’m interested in a dynamic which would mutually satisfy our social D/s needs while remaining non-sexual. I’m looking for somebody who enjoys their preferences being deferred to, be it when and where we meet, which movie we put on, what kind of food we order, essentially any aspect of our interactions. Someone who thrives on being the decision-maker and who has no qualms imposing their will on me.

In return you can expect a friend who will gladly submit to your choices and prioritise your desires. Who will actively seek to be of service to you, will strive to stay in your good graces and will hunger for your approval. Who will be flexible in accommodating your changing needs and consistent in fulfilling his commitments. Who will unfailingly respect your boundaries and proactively communicate his own.

I am gay and not inclined towards initiating sexual or romantic relationships with women. However from experience I don’t find sub dynamics with other men to be very fulfilling, and haven’t been able to find a satisfactory outlet yet for my submissive needs in my sex /love life.

My inspiration here comes from a prior friendship with a uni classmate; our dynamic was never explicitly D/s, but there was a tacit acknowledgement that her role was to call the shots and mine was to enthusiastically follow her decisions and strive to add value to her life. We never had a hint of sexual tension between us despite not being even slightly prudish when we hung out - she could easily pull whoever she wanted and I’ve always strictly dated men. But I keep coming back to this dynamic as it functioned as the ideal opportunity for me to express my sub side socially while sticking to my more neutral / switchy preference when it comes to relationships with guys.

The exact nature of this dynamic will fully hinge on the person I strike up this friendship with. Your lifestyle, hobbies, schedule, preferences and dislikes will dictate the shape of our connection. However I am only seeking to form this connection with someone who wants to be friends in person, rather than pen-pals.

Therefore the criteria to make this work is that you also live in London or nearby, and are wanting to have a real life dynamic. To keep things simple, I’m also only seeking people who are less than a decade younger or older than me; mid 20s to mid 30s preferred.

Regarding me, I’m 30, male, white, 5’10, with an average build. I live in South West London and will willingly travel anywhere that my Oyster card will cover to reach you. I love movies and musicals, video and board games, exploring London and drinking delicious coffees. Or switch that to wine if that’s the vibe.

If you’re interested in discussing this, please drop me a message using the chat function. I’m evidently not one to be bossy, but to ensure we’re on the same page please can you include a reasonably detailed introduction and include the word ‘Sazerac’ in your message.