In an effort to spare those who may not find themselves to align with the core requisites of this personals ad, I'd like to prelude this post with all the primary requirements that might fall under what many would call a “deal-breaker.” 

• Online and in-person, long-term dynamic requested

• 25 years of age required

• While all life harbors its own distinct values of worth and beauty, I have a personal and deeply vested preference for men that are 5’10” or taller; it just plays into the heart of a number of the dynamic's areas of interest for me

• Some degree of coherent literacy is a must

• I don't want a photo of you at any point in time, but you're most definitely not receiving one of me during the early stage of the correspondence; blame past bad actors 

• This post will be a long read prompting a certain degree of comprehensive intellect more on par with a dreaded academic article than anything that should arouse you below the belt

With that out of the way, I'll give a more generically formatted post that hopefully succeeds in giving my remaining audience a clear and precise understanding of who should be contacting me versus who would be wasting both their time and my own should they choose to message in some disregarding hope for compatibility without plausibility.

Continuing, I am 28 / F and I reside in the US's Midwest region. Though I don't ask that you live in close proximity, logic dictates that if this is to be successful both online and in-person–then the greater the distance, the lesser the likelihood of this happening. 

So while I have my doubts, I’m not opposed to trying things should you live in the outer states. That is to say, I'm not a total prude.

It's up for debate whether or not I can even, in good conscience, claim myself a Domme. This is the most widely accepted and understood term in the BDSM community, used to describe an instance where the female identifies and acts as the superior force in some manner of the proceeding.

But I am not interested in your personal funds. I carry no innate desire to nurture you up from your tragic, loveless beginning—nor do I reserve any special interest in deploying sadistic treatment onto you as some kind of medicine to heal me of my own insecurities, or feed secret pain-seeking demons. Moreover, assertion of power ordinances is a tedious chore that I tire just at the thought of considering. The implied suggestion of “domination” found in “femdom / femdomme” and all its derivatives is not the characteristic I seek to impress by my claiming any relation to the terminology in this personals post.

The femdom branch of BDSM is, simply put, the most developed social construct supportive of my own hedonistic design. A personal, naturally occurring belief system which follows that a man, no matter his origin or inherent equality, does best across from me when he is beneath me. Servile and learning. Receptive and obedient.

What then, brings me here? What am I searching for exactly?

• - The peace in having searched at all. It's been said by various people over time, in written works and verbal contexts, that men are wired differently than women. When I was younger, I strongly disagreed. Now that I'm older, the phenomenon of time has taught me the truth in this previously rejected statement. 

We are wired differently, and in this diversity of design, I have found there to be certain... necessities required of me if I wish to achieve anything close to what I may initially set out to receive in an interation with someone of the male persuasion. That is to say, I find the probability of a man initiating an interaction that succeeds in establishing even a fraction of things I seek from the encounter to be verging on impossible if I leave the initial contact in their perceivably incapable hands.

It's just a thousand times easier to leave behind as detailed a rubric outlining my wants to "assist" their oppositely wired minds in this initial searching stage. 

• - Someone naturally prone to a submissive persona. Mannerisms adhering to those of servitude and worship-play that borders on fixation or obsession. This is more a sought after personality trait that I would love one to harbor inherently rather than have it be required by some external cultivation. 

This also runs in hand with my reluctance to promote fields of domination as a baseline for the dynamic and our impression of it at the start of things. I find it to be infinitely more pleasant to interact with someone whose default is one of little to no opposition. A demeanor naturally aiming to please. This disposition, of course, isn't required–just easier. 

Because the alternative to submissive agreement is that of disagreement. Which leads me to my next point of search.

• - Mutual interest in or openness to my preferred inclusions within the dynamic. By this I mean, someone who may or may not have a sexual or personal interest in certain previously discussed areas of my interests, but will either willingly or reluctantly allow for their implementation regardless of where they stand on the matter. 

I'll elaborate by way of example: it's standard to call behaviors of opposition or general disagreement brat behavior or “bratty.” I neither like nor dislike the behavior on a surface level, when considered outside of situational context. And from this removed perspective, I recognize that the behavior is merely an instinctive, thoughtless reaction for some, myself included.

However… 

In context, it needs to be said and known, that the nature of this reaction or “bratty behavior,” that which is rooted to opposition… offends me above all sound reasoning. 

Enter: interest in elements of punishment ranging from those likely to be well-received and others not so much. Mild or light regression, restraints, pet-play, humiliation, light to heavy degradation, stress positions, situation-specific punishments, spanking, emotional detachment, and many more manners of discipline as can be expected of someone who dwells heavily in the infinite realm of creativity.

I don't actively seek this field of “kink,” but it is my default inclination, which others may intentionally provoke out of their own sexual interest or because they're just not an agreeable person and are prone to instances of argued opposition. In either case or scenario, such is my response to aforementioned “brat behaviors.”

I oppose your opposition and in turn, fairness and rightness become secondary concerns. This isn't a negotiable possibility, but a promised response on my end. I have a history of meeting fire with a bigger fire, at the risk of torching the partnership at large.

And in me is no desire to change this anytime soon.

• - Mutual interest in establishing elements of mentorship / teaching / training as a foundational pillar of the dynamic's routine. I enjoy learning new things. But even more than learning these things, I greatly enjoy arranging instances especially designed to foster interactive moments of training or teaching my partner on chosen material or focused areas of learned wisdoms and behaviors.

Enter: interest in elements of positive reinforcement often manifesting as tangible gift-giving, praise, light reverse worship-play, affection, post-orgasm “torture,” milking, machine-use, body worship, uniquely crafted rewards, rare fulfillment of requests, and other creative instruments of motivations and expressions of appreciation. Because, again, I'm not a total prude. 

• - Open to pegging and feminization. Though I've never partaken in it, I have always had an explicit interest in exploring the bounds of pegging. It ties into my distinct fondness for the feminization of an ordinarily masculine presenting male.

Everything from wardrobe control, to hair length and regiment, to instilling ideal models of effiminate movements, speech, demeanors, postures, and even psychological dispositions. 

The thought of engaging in sexual activity with this carefully nurtured personification and embodiment of femininity, let alone strapping them to a headboard and pounding– I mean pegging–every last notion of autonomy out of my creation, is extremely erotic to me. I drool at the prospect. Drool. 

• - Chastity. I might be listing this last, but this is perhaps the number one inclusion I’m searching for in any who should contact me. 

I have a disorder of the mind, where I simply cannot participate in any kind of meaningful, long-term dynamic with a man of whom I do not keep locked in a chastity cage for a duration decided upon by myself alone. Me. The one and only keyholder responsible for the placement of the cage, and its locking and unlocking.

I won't demand this right out the door, but keep in mind my fixed necessity of its eventual long-term utility.

For the brave few readers remaining, I will go on to acknowledge that most of those in this subreddit and those who would call themselves a “submissive,” are searching for some consistent promise for either the sadistic values of sexually gratifying power plays I might bring to the table or, alternatively, the softer, maternal affections I might be able to offer should things go merrily your way. 

Neither of these two contrasting attributes have I highlighted or promised you would receive regularly as a result of you responding to this personals ad. 

From the bottom of my heart, I beg of you, please…– please, stop and think about this fact. Really think about it. I know you can do it. 

Not once have I given you, the reader, cause to believe I can satisfy any nurturing tenderness one might ultimately crave in a gentle but dominant hand, nor have I given you reason to expect that I might satisfy the role of a sadistic, heartless tool used to administer baseless, around the clock pain.

At most, the reality of what the dynamic would look like is establishing at first an online basis for interactions that eventually becomes a mix of in-person and online. The exact content to be expected in these communications is dependent on the progression of the contact itself. And as for the actual day-to-day routines and stimulants of intrigue-- nothing is guaranteed beyond the likeliness that the majority of communications and activities will follow the general atmosphere of the above notions of interest and tendencies.

Now…

Does this post somehow translate to something you would want to invest your time and effort in exploring by contacting me? 

If you feel you share an interest in the key components I myself am in search of and you still wish to reach out to me–why? What do you anticipate to gain by responding to my search? I ask this not as a deterrent, but from a personal interest in the possibility of my contributing the aspects you seek from the dynamic irrespective to my own, and so that I have a general understanding of where you are mentally in all this. 

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About me outside BDSM: I am criminally mundane, average. From my hobbies to my social conductivity. It's all impossibly boring and unoriginal.  I like animals and nature and music and most things you can expect from my age group. Though, I will say that I have a very pessimistic outlook and crippling disinterest in most light topics of discussions, or that which I believe to be horrendously irrelevant to a more grandiose cause for applied attention. 
 
I am prone to eccentricities and believe everyone to be special, especially myself. My ego is its own separate entity of self and I have an assertive, controlling personality that stems from an unhealthy, innate distrust of others’ competence in various areas of life, including but not limited to that of relationships both intimate and not. 

Appearance-wise, this is a copy-pasted description I sent someone earlier today: I'm an unimpressive, average 5'5" height. I'm African American and have the typical medium shade of complexion and pigment. Fair skin, no acne or anything like that. Biggest blemish is a scar on my wrist. Brown eyes. Glasses. Also worth mentioning, I don't do makeup. Never have, and most likely never will. Something about saving that effiminate honor for my other half must have made me develop a disinterest in it even from my youth.

I have very, very poofy hair that falls a bit past my shoulder blades; rest assured, I mostly keep it twisted and out of the way unless a special occasion calls for the obnoxious sass of fro-ness. Weight-wise, I weigh 160lbs Spring - Fall, then 170lbs around the holidays because I devour anything put in front of me.

B-cup breast size, so all kinks relying on large breasts can die here. My weight goes to my hips and butt. Despite my slightly masculine tendencies, age and genetics has made me to mature into a more curvaceous and feminine physique. If nothing else, it gives me superpowers in my predominantly male field of work. 

I don't require anyone's response to fall anywhere near the length or size of my own. I also don't have any specific request for what you should include in your initial message, should you contact me. Except answers to my questions.

Obviously blatant incompatibilities will be dismissed and ignored. If your literacy level is too elementary, I likely won't respond. If you copy-paste a past post of yours without any unique addition to the text, I'll probably ignore it. 

But if there is an obvious show of effort and mutual interest, even if I have reason to doubt the likelihood of compatibility, I'm still likely to reply and give it a fair chance. To give respect to the effort, at the very least.

In closing, I'm not here in search of anything with a definitive shape or relational identifier. Merely opening the door to the possibility of establishing a long-term dynamic that includes most or all of that which I shared above. Even should this manifest as simply getting to know one another more extensively post-private DMs and seeing if there's a chance for it to graduate to an online and eventually in-person dynamic of relationship. 

To conclude, due to the shameful length of this post, I won't get into the more intricate, psychological intrigues I find myself in search of. Instead, I'll go ahead and shut up now. Give you a chance to exist in the decision, too.

(PS. This personals listing is actually long overdue. I've been hinting and chipping away at it since mid-summer. I've only just now gotten around to writing and posting it in lieu of my decision to discard this beloved account, its username and all its associated content of fantasy RP worlds. Logic dictated I post this femdom personals with this account to give it one last glory of use before its inevitable end at year's end.)

- Babylon