I want to watch rain patter against the windows as we snuggle on the couch, warm and cozy together.

I want to whisper hopes, dreams, and secrets into the wee hours of the night.

I want the collar around my neck to feel like a badge of honor, knowing it's from you.

I want to hold hands on long walks somewhere beautiful: a forest, a beach, a scenic neighborhood, take your pick.

I want to bake you treats and hear you say, "Oh my god, that's so good."

I want to feel warm and fuzzy when you say I've done a good job, made your life easier, or otherwise been a good boy.

I want us to look in one another's eyes and feel absolute safety and trust when the whips and chains come out.

I want us to be the other's first thought when we wake up from a scary dream.

I want our hearts to swell with pride when you say, "He's my submissive."

I want us to look at each other and feel like the luckiest people alive.

I want us to be like peanut butter and chocolate: complete on our own, amazing together.

If you are a dominant or switch-y woman open to a relationship with a submissive man, I may be able to further enrich your life.

Who I am (vanilla)

I'm a 33-year-old Seattle man who values creativity, intelligence, and dedication. I'd sum up my personality as...

• I'm extremely passionate about things and people that matter to me. If I'm fascinated by a topic, I can write about it for thousands of pages. If I value a person, picking them up at 3 AM from the airport is nothing.
• I'm an introvert and prioritize few but close relationships over many casual ones. An evening reading, cooking, and taking a walk with a partner sounds like a rad date.
• I'm meticulous and detail-oriented. No facts are too insignificant for me to overlook. If I was mugged by a man wearing mismatching socks, I'd observe that his outfit could be better coordinated. Then I'd hand him a dummy wallet with a few bucks and expired credit cards, because I'm meticulous in practical ways too.
• I'm endlessly curious. I'm constantly learning and researching things. I can regale listeners with factoids from the practical to the esoteric. (Did you know that Kim Jong-Il once stole a bunch of Flemish giant rabbits?!) I'm never bored. The world is too interesting.
• I'm logically driven. I'm a facts first, feelings second person. (Although pragmatic enough to know the world usually operates on feelings!) I side with Spock over Bones in Star Trek.
• I don't consider myself competitive or aggressive. But I'm stubborn as a mule when I've decided something (or someone) is important to me.
• I'm a stable person not inclined to take risks. I can be counted on to follow through on commitments. Friends and partners have found me a dependable presence in their lives.
• I value wit and cleverness, particularly in unexpected places. I chuckled over a restaurant's website that said about children: "Dining as a family is an art best practiced long before your reservation. For the communal sake of our dining room, please choose wisely."
• I have strong opinions and convictions. I respect strength in others. I define strength as remaining true to one's values despite external pressures. Some of my proudest moments are ones where I felt I did so.
• My sense of humor errs towards the droll, the dry, and the wry. (Which sounds like a baking recipe?) Random things can make me giggle for minutes. If I was locked in lab for study, observers' notes might read, "Subject appears to laugh randomly."
• My primary love language is quality time, followed by words of affirmation. I also like to express affection by cooking and baking for people.

Some of my biggest interests include:

• Reading, creative writing, films, tabletop RPGs (all four frequently from the fantasy, sci fi, and horror genres), history, cooking and baking, spending time with cats, personal fitness, and researching whatever random topics grab my interest.

• The common thread that many of these interests share is learning and creative self-expression. One of my favorite authors, J.R.R. Tolkien, viewed creation as a divine act that imbues the best parts of ourselves into our creative works. This is true for everthing I create, be it a batch of cookies or a chapter in a story. It will be meticulously researched with high attention to detail and getting little things right.

• I love learning new things. I value partners who can expose me to new interests and experiences (and vice versa) while sharing common ones. I value compatible personalities most of all, though. Sharing the same interests is moot if you drive each other crazy!

Physically, I'm 5'5", slender, Caucasian, brown-haired, brown-eyed, and have a short beard (that I sometimes shave off). I was once described by someone as "a handsome devil." Facetiously? Seriously? I choose to repost those words regardless! Happy to share pictures upon request.

Who I am (kinky)

• I'm a submissive (not a bottom or slave) man who's been involved in kink on and off for around two years. I've served multiple dommes in various capacities. I'm grateful to each for everything I learned.

• I'm service-oriented. I find fulfillment through being of service to my partner and knowing I've made her life more pleasant. That might be through cooking, cleaning, yard work, running errands, locating the name of that elusive song on the tip of her tongue--every partner wants different things. I could probably have found fulfillment as the butler for an 1800s great manor house.

• I'd describe myself as a good boy. Earning words of praise from a partner, and knowing I've made her happy, makes me glow.

• I thrive under structure and routine with clear expectations and consequences. I am detail-oriented and sometimes pedantic. I love understanding rules and systems and discovering optimal ways to follow them. Learning a partner's wants and expectations is like assembling a puzzle: I'm beholding something beautiful and intricate, and feel like I've accomplished something by getting to.

• I'm happy to take initiative, volunteer opinions and ideas, and undertake goals independently. I love being told what to do, but figuring out what to do myself is no problem. I believe a submissive who needs constant direction like a lost puppy is a liability rather than asset to their partner. I'd liken myself more to a sheep dog that can independently do what it's trained for (if its owner so desires), but happily come running on command.

What I have to offer (vanilla & kinky)

In alphabetical order...

• Commitment: I'm good at organizing and completing long-term projects. I've been GMing my current RPG group for nine years and written 11,000 pages of fiction with them.
• Communication: I'm a direct but tactful communicator. I believe that addressing issues promptly and openly is the best way to resolve them.
• Conversation: I'm well-read on a variety of topics and can provide engaging conversation.
• Cooking: I'm an adept cook and baker. I can prepare multi-course delicious and healthy meals. Or sinfully decadent, as desired--in my favorite chef's words, "Fat is flavor!"
• Criticism: I'm receptive to personal criticism and have a growth-centric attitude. When I make an error, I want to know ASAP so that I can fix it.
• Employment: I'm a grown-ass adult with a steady job.
• Experience: I've served prior dommes. I've attended kink events and educated myself through reading. I'm not an expert, but I'm not new at this.
• Health: I'm drug-free, STI-free, a non-smoker/drinker, and exercise regularly. I'm conscientious about my nutritional intake. My grandfather lived until 94: I want to do that too!
• History: My account has a long posting/comment history that gives a good sense of who I am outside of this ad. (I'm happy to share a link to my SFW account upon request, too.)
• Housekeeping: I have multiple years' professional experience cleaning from a prior job and can keep a tidy house.
• Learning: I'm passionate about learning new skills and interests, especially if they bring my partner joy. Do you love to ice skate? Carve wood? Study languages? I'd love to learn!
• Writing: I have strong written communication skills. I can articulately and entertainingly express ideas in personal, professional, and hobbyist contexts.
• Broadly, I'm highly organized, methodical, and attentive to detail. I can leverage these traits to benefit my partner in a variety of situations.
• I love lists, can you tell?

I'm also told that I squirm delightfully when tied up!

I'm conscientious about safety. I'm private about personal information until I get to know and trust someone. I don't post anything online that connects my vanilla identity to kink. If we decide to meet, I'll ask to do so in a public vanilla setting. (I'm happy for you to pick the location, and equally happy if you want me to offer ideas.) Kinksters who know me consider me a safe and dependable play partner.

Kinks & Limits

First: the primary thing I seek is connections with people whose personalities are compatible with mine. Kink and D/s dynamics are desirable but secondary.

Second: I believe how someone wants to feel is more important than what specific kinks they want to explore. Some feelings I enjoy experiencing include:

• Cherished and valued
• Praised for a job well done
• Controlled in my daily life (rules and tasks are like an invisible security blanket draped over my shoulders!)
• Physically and mentally helpless
• Humbled and put in my place
• Uncertain and on my toes
• Whiplashed from alternating kindness and cruelty

These feelings are not requirements in the least. Every domme has their own style and emotional relationship with kink: every dynamic is unique. (And apparently, I love rhymes?) I'm more interested in whether a partner and I tick enough shared boxes, and whether our personalities vibe, than whether every feeling on that list speaks to her.

Some of my interests include (in alphabetical order) chastity, collars/leashes, crossdressing, discipline, funishments, high heels, humiliation, lifestyle rules and restrictions, orgasm control, pegging, physical bondage, psychological domination, spanking/impact, tease/denial, rewards and punishments.

As with feelings, none of my interests are must-haves. E.g., don't like crossdressing? Cool, I can live without it.

I'm open to most kinks that aren't limits. E.g., rope play isn't on that list, but if my partner's into it? Okay! Let's try it! I believe most activities (vanilla or kinky) are as enjoyable as the people you do them with.

Limits: Ballbusting, findom/financial tributes, male nipple play, needles, rimming (giving), scat, taking NSFW pictures/videos of myself, urethral play, watersports

Who I seek

The biggest thing I look for in a partner is mutual respect. I prefer partners who...

• ...are verbally eloquent
• ...are curious about the world and love to learn
• ...are respectful towards others
• ...are reliable during times of crisis
• ...keep promises, even when inconvenient
• ...have a firm moral compass, and can make others go, "What would [Person] do? That's probably the right thing," during tough situations
• ...take care of their body and value their health

What I seek

I'm open to two things: a good relationship and ideal relationship.

• A good relationship would be a dynamic with someone whose personality I enjoy. Maybe that's as play partners. Maybe that's as a shorter-term relationship. Maybe that's as a relationship with someone in a poly/ENM relationship. What our dynamic could look like (and whether I'd continue pursuing my ideal relationship) is a discussion best had individually. So long as our personalities vibe, I'm open to a lot of possibilities.

• An ideal relationship would be a long-term FLR/female-led relationship with a D/s component. I'd be happy with monogamy and open towards non-monogamy--if I were the primary partner/nesting partner/anchor partner/etc. I want my ideal relationship partner and I to be each other's #1 priorities.

• Location: I desire an-person relationship. Someone in the greater Seattle area would be ideal, with Portland or Vancouver the next-most ideal. I'm willing to start online with someone farther away, with the goal of eventually meeting in person.

If life is a journey, people are destinations. Maybe we'll be one another's dream homes. Maybe we'll be a lovely place to stay for a few years. Maybe we'll be ships passing in the night. More than anything else, I'm interested in meeting interesting people and seeing where things go.

Feel free to shoot me a line if you're interested in the same!