Hi there! I'm Deer. Thanks for checking out my ad!

I'll start by listing potential deal-breakers first:

• I'm after a serious, long-term relationship.
• I'm open to date someone far away but only if we're both serious about putting in the effort to make it work, and (assuming we match) can make a reasonable plan on how to eventually move-in together. (I'm open to relocate for the right person.)
• I do not wish to have children.
• I'm politically on the left.

With that out of the way:

Me

• Age: 30
  
• Location: Sweden, Stockholm area
• Appearance: Average (rather lean) body, healthy weight. I go to the gym but I'm not a muscly guy. Happy to exchange verification pictures after a conversation!
• Language: English. I know some German and I'm learning svenska, but that needs a lot of time in the oven still.
• Orientation: demisexual

Personality-wise, I'm nerdy, creative, open-minded, empathetic, respectful. In my working life I'm an engineer working in green energy. Outside of that, I have a ton of interests and not enough time. I'm in a book club. I love films. I love analyses of films (and other stuff!). I'm learning drawing, sometimes I write short stories, sometimes I go bouldering, sometimes I roleplay. Politics, the environment and social justice are important issues to me, and hopefully to you too.

What I'm looking for:

• Aged ~23-37 (a bit flexible)
• Woman or femme nonbinary
• Wants to be in a monogamous relationship
• Dominant
• Cares about social issues / is progressive.

That's all the hard constraints! I have a fondness for nerdy and opinionated women (nothing is hotter than a passionate conversation) but you don't have to fit any particular mold. I find that almost everyone is interesting when they aren't afraid to show their true selves, so if you think we could be a good match, shoot a message!

I dream of a romance with some power dynamics mixed in. I'm not looking to be a doormat partner who uses femdom as an excuse to be passive and not make decisions. I want a relationship where we both grow and support each other, with clear communication about how we're feeling, what works and what doesn't. Where both of us put in the work to create something sweet and beautiful together.

The kinks

Power exchange, personal service, mental submission, body worship, orgasm control, roleplay, bondage are all things I'm interested it. This is not an exhaustive list; I'm very open to try new stuff with a trusted partner. My preference is for gentler domination, but something more intense is on the cards. Again, with a trusted partner and good communication, lots of doors are open.

Limits: Scat, blood, illegal stuff, stuff that marks (cuts, etc.), cuckoldry, age play, "hard" humiliation as opposed to playful.

Ok but do I have experience?

No, not really. I've had a little bit of experience but it was online only. That said, I've done my research, read books about d/s relationships, I've been in kink communities (both online and offline), have kinky friends, and generally consider myself reasonably knowledgeable, certainly enough to practice kink safely and with consideration for my theoretical partner.

Aaaand that's it. Thanks for reading all that if you came that far. I honestly appreciate it. If my post resonated with you, feel free to send a PM or chat message and say hi! Please include a short intro about yourself (ASL, etc.), what exactly you are looking for, and something that you're currently passionate/thinking a lot about.

Have a great day and I hope you all find what you're looking for!