Hi ladies! This sub has changed my life for the better and I guess I'm out in the field practicing strategy.

I met this guy at a bar at 4am two weeks ago. As FDS would correctly say, I probably fucked up the first impression because I was pretty drunk and we got along very well, therefore we made out a bit before I went home.

We've been texting for two weeks and he seems very loving. He wanted to invite me to a friends party the first weekend after we met but I cancelled. I agreed to go to a second party 2 weeks after we met.

The days leading up to it he would mention he's excited to see me. (I was excited to go to that party for other reasons- I like parties.) We've been friendly and over text he would mention he spoils people he's dating. He even asked how he should introduce me to his friends, if he should say I'm his girlfriend. I told him considering we met only once that he should introduce me as my name lol.

At the party he brought me two presents and was eager to get me the party favors he knew I was excited for. He spent a lot of time holding me close, telling me how beautiful I am, how beautiful my eyes were, blah blah blah. "No, I don't think you understand, you are SO beautiful."

I like to have a lot of intellectual discussions and one of the presents he got me was a copy of a book that I had mentioned I wanted, the Bhagavad Gita.

It really bothered me that the entire night he didn't mention that I was smart. I'm not trying to toot my own horn but I do feel like that's my most obvious trait that really stands out and does deserve complementing. I am very smart. I think even people who don't like me are compelled to admit that.

I don't really give a shit if I'm beautiful but I do care about brains.

He was a philosophy major so I found it odd that he didn't acknowledge my intelligence at all. I almost want to text him and confront him about this, because it's important to me. If you're praising me on my beauty alone, thats very odd to me. I'm attractive but I think my mind is more important and more obvious. I'm totally more attracted to people for their brains than their looks and tend to date uglier guys because of it. I crave that intellectual stimulation more than anything.

He also spent a tremendous amount of time kissing me or trying to kiss me and he didn't care if his friends were around. I was often pulling away embarrassed and telling him "dude your friends are around" but he really didn't care.

Later he was telling me that he was asking his friends about me and that they liked me, and he asked if I liked his friends. I felt suspicious of this.

I also felt suspicious when we had a conversation where he was saying he really liked me. He said that he can read people really well and knows if they'll get along. I asked what can you read from me? He looked into my eyes for a long time and said something like you haven't been in many relationships before. I asked why he would say that and he said because you're afraid to love.

This isn't true. I've been in the dating scene since I was a tween lol. Obviously I'm not throwing myself into a relationship with the first guy who says he likes me. I told him that was bullshit lol.

Tl:dr: I probably know the correct answer here but I wanted to get your takes on this. I'm probably giving off all the totally wrong vibes because I made out with him so much last night. He was always trying to cuddle and hold hands. He's probably just love bombing.

I started to leave without having a preparatory conversation beforehand and he seemed really flustered and maybe slightly upset but he didn't confront me, he did walk me down and stuff.

He asked me something along the lines of did you really think I wouldn't want to say a proper goodbye and walk you down? and I said "I wasn't really thinking about it." LMAO.

He really insisted on getting kisses before I got in my uber even though I tried to use the excuse of cotton mouthing for not wanting to kiss.

Anyway I'm not super emotionally invested in this guy and he's not super handsome necessarily. But the party was fun, his friend group is really fascinating, and I would not mind hanging out with them all again, if I could not have to be kissing this man in front of countless others all night long.

So tell me sisters, am I a dumb bitch? Is this guy trying to use me? Should I confront him about not praising my brains? ( I do want to haha). Is it cool if I let him take me out to dinner and maybe another party?

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Edit: He asked me if he was the kind of guy I’d want to introduce to my family and I said I dont really know you well enough to know yet. I asked him that same question back and he said “yes thats why im asking you.” Thoughts?