I'm always surprised at how common the idea that "if you believe in gender equality then you must be a feminist" is. This makes about as much sense to me as "if you believe in morality then you must be a Christian" or "if you care about the working class then you must be a socialist". For a while I've been meaning to do a write-up that responds to this, by explaining why it doesn't make sense to say "if you believe in [good thing] then you must support [my movement]" and by going into some detail on why many people believe in equality but don't identify with feminism.

I started writing one up about a month ago: A Non-Feminist FAQ. Right now it's just a draft, so I'd be especially happy to hear your opinions and feedback on it, including whether I wasn't clear on something, whether there's something I'm unintentionally missing or misrepresenting, etc. It's somewhat long, but I wanted to be comprehensive.

Although it's obviously from a critical perspective, my intention is to have it read as "why I'm not a feminist" or "why it's possible to not be a feminist but believe in gender equality" rather than "why feminism is the worst thing in the world", "why feminists are bad people", "why you shouldn't even consider being a feminist", or anything like that.

It's in FAQ format because it's based on many of the interactions I've had with feminists and the questions/arguments I commonly see, and because I'd like to be able to offer it as a resource when I encounter "if you believe in gender equality then you must be a feminist".

Some of the references are the same as the Reference Book of Men's Issues, but I wrote the RBOMI with the intention of being relatively non-partisan so these two documents serve different purposes.