The closest thing to mainstream discourse on men's issues that I see is people talking about how men shouldn't feel an obligation to be traditionally masculine. They should be able to wear feminine clothes, be openly emotional (e.g. to cry), etc.

The elephant in the room that rarely seems to be mentioned is that actually doing this can make it really difficult for a man to attract women and have a fulfilling sex/romance life. There are other areas where a man being feminine will run into difficulties, but the realm of heterosexual attraction is among the worst for it. Some people might suggest finding feminist women, but I haven't personally seen that an attraction to feminine men is any more common among feminists.

My questions:

1. Do you think that the issue of sexual attraction / heterosexual dating success is a major pressure for men to act masculine?

2. Is this factor too often ignored when discussing why men should be able to be more feminine?

3. If this is one major pressure on men to act masculine, what are the implications? Do we accept that it's often not practical for men to be feminine because of that? To what extent is it possible to change what people are attracted to, and to what extent is it desirable to do that?

(I'm sure that there will be men here who'll say that they've had no problems attracting women while being feminine, and their experiences are valid. All I can say is that, although I don't deny the exceptions, the overall trend according to what I see definitely seems to be that masculinity is associated with more success with women, as a man.)