Where do I start. I have a 17year old son and his mother has full custody. I pay child support every month (1k). This order was set in NYC about 5 years ago. Since then we both moved to NJ about 40mins apart. She moves a lot and also since the case closed they both refuse to give me their address. Because she "doesnt feel safe" aka i'll take her to court. And he doesn't want her to get mad at him so he wont tell. I found out anyway but they have moved since then. I very very rarely speak to her as shes always angry and it always ends in an argument and her yelling over me. So I would have to organize meeting my son with him. The court approved every other weekend and holidays which we kept up but as he got older it has been slowly getting harder and harder for him to come over. He also told me its stressful to go back and forth so sometimes he rather stay at home. I believe the real truth is he gets to sleep late there and be unsupervised but he has to get up early and do chores here. We do a trip every spring break. I have no problem getting him during that time though lol.

Anyway, now he never answers the phone and has been completely avoiding me. When i confront him he just says its because of work and school but now he never answers the phone now. In the past, when i talk to his mother about it she says "well I'm not stopping him or coming in between." Manipulation. What are my rights? He's going to be 18 this year so i'm not motivated to "force" him over here. I'm trying not to resent him but i'm hurt. I'm frankly exhausted with the court system. The delays, her successfully manipulating the court. If he was 10 or young I would be more motivated but I just feel like its a waste of time and money especially when he's on her side whenever questioned by the court. I also believe they moved out of state and she doesn't want him to tell me so she told him not to answer. But thats just instinct. I guess i'm just venting or wondering if anyone has a similar experience.