I’m F [23] and make my own income. I have saved enough money to move out of my parents home. But I come from a south Asian Muslim background where my mom refuses to let me go outside even without my brother or father with me.

I’ve been grounded for 23 years, where my parents would never let me go places alone or see my friends and they say it’s because I’m Muslim. I’m sick and tired of hearing them say I can’t do anything because I’m a Muslim girl when my brother gets to see his friend all the time, and even go to college in a different state.

At home I try to be more independent by doing my own laundry, cooking, etc but my parents always baby me and do it for me. They say that if I want to move out I have to get married.

I’m desperately looking for another job in a different state but I am not sure if I can get one. I have dreams to travel on my own, live alone and fend for myself and now I am financially secure.

I know that if I get a job in another state, my parents will want to move with me. How can I gain this independence from them?