I (F21) am dealing with issues with my parents. Specifically, their relationship.

I give them advice, and I don't live with them so I have no idea how progress is, I just hear it from two different perspectives: Mom and Dad. Basically, Dad has insecurity and is an angry drunk (he has not hurt anyone, or yelled, it's just verbal lying out of spite) then has the pattern of feeling guilty, regretful once sober. Obviously Mom wants him to stop, I do too. Mom is also (with permission) seeing women to "explore her sexuality" we all support. But he's insecure about that too, yet wants her to be happy and continue.

They've been together 11 years and have 3 other kids. Oldest is 10 years old. I've told him 4 days ago what he should do, y'know advice and all. But he just didn't listen. I only know he didn't because today, Mom told me he fucked up again by drinking a bottle of wine last night and neglected to feed the kids because of it. He did not tell me.

It got me upset, rightfully so, but here's the cherry on top.. He showed me texts to his family member (she's like a mom to him and raised him) about his "wrongdoings" and acknowledging it. Texts from a few days ago, don't remember what the date was. Yet.. he didn't acknowledge to me that he succumbed to alcohol last night.

At this point, it's clear he won't take my advice and he isn't trying. Unfortunately, neither of them can separate right now because of their living situation, it's complicated and they're stuck right now. I have no idea what to do to help them anymore. Or what step I should take to help further.

Please do not be ignorant here, if they could help themselves they would've done it already. There's a reason why I'm involved.