Recently my father passed away, since he passed away my step mother has been up my ass and sending me random texts callong me her daughter and saying she loves me so much. I know, know most would say that sounds great, but it irritates me mostly because of our history. I haven't spoken to her in years because, she is a pill popping addict who refused to work, my dad at one point had to work 3 jobs just to keep their heads above water. She complained about any and every little thing she had to do while my dad was in the hospital because he wasn't there to do it for her. She would get on Facebook and complain about having to do the simplist task like taking the dig out or the trash to the apartment dumpster. She pretty much forced my dad to work himself to death. I know he was a grown adult who coukd make his own choices but it broke my heart at the condition he himself was in and she basically only seemed to worry about the things she had to do that he used to do. I kept my distance from them for years unfortunately because of her addictions and the denial her and my dad were in over it. When he got sick I rebuilt my relationship with him and we had loving and wonderful closure before he passed. I honestly wonder what in the world to even say to my step mom when she goes on and on about "loving me" and being her "amazing daughter." I would just ignore her but I can't until we get past the funeral. If anyone has any ideas as of how to deal with this I would greatly appreciate it. I don't want to be a bitch or rude as I know she is grieving like I am, but I don't love her and the only person who I am a daughter to is my birth mom who I have an incredible relationship with.

Just really needed to get some outsider opinions and a little venting.