I am keeping my gender a secret as I don't want that to be a deciding factor in whether or not someone chooses to pursue me or not. If you're looking for an overly specific type of person, I'm probably not the person for you as I want to be seen for who I am, not what I am.

Hi. deep breath. This is a difficult post to make because there is some level of embarrassment in being this open on a public forum, especially when you're soliciting others to be your "family" but I want to make that leap in hopes that there are others out there who can maybe relate to my situation and offer me friendship and the opportunity to feel like I am part of a family that understands me.

In my adult years, I've become somewhat estranged from my blood family due to the realization that I have suffered long-term neglect at the hands of my parents on top of facing constant undermining and gaslighting relating to my mental health disorders/struggles from my family as a whole. These realizations helped me to become diagnosed with C-PTSD and to take the proper steps to healing and moving forward with my life, one of those steps is to find a sense of community and genuine family bonds with people who are safe, encouraging, and gentle with me. Which is why I'm here.

I'm not specifically looking for any dynamic. I'm not looking for an older brother, mother, younger sister, or anything like that, although those types are welcome. I'm just not focused on labels. Age, gender, location, none of these things are overly important factors to me. Instead, I want someone genuine. Someone who wants to add positively to my life to help me set goals and achieve them, to talk to me when I am having bad days, to give me advice or support when I need it, to encourage me, to listen to me when I tell them how I feel and to comfort and reassure me. I want someone to be my rock, and that type of person doesn't come prepackaged so please, come as you are.

As for me, I am a young adult who is learning many things for the first time, too many things, including how to be gentle. Both with myself and others, a spouse to a wonderful, kind human, a tired college student, an artist who is bad at art, a lousy nighttime gamer, and a hobby enthusiast. My hobbies and interests consist of playing online games, alternative fashion, collecting trinkets, indie coffee shops, library visits, and dismantling the patriarchy. I am entirely fluid, always shifting and changing, but I would describe myself as passionate, imperfect, and sensitive.

I'd love to hear from other humans seeking human connection. Please tell me about yourself, your journey, what drew you to this subreddit, what you expect from a familiar relationship, and all the things. I kindly ask that dry texters, romance seekers, trauma dumpers, and ghosts please not interact.

Talk to you soon!