So I've been FWB with this Romanian man for the past 5 years. He's been in England the majority of the time, but travels back now and then for his family and during covid. During this time I also had a long term on and off relationship with another guy. Which he was aware of as it was very public and we weren't involved with eachother on that level during that time. But when that relationship was "off" I did use him as a crutch in the hopes I wouldn't go back to my toxic relationship. That long term relationship is now long gone. And I feel I no longer need my FWB as a crutch. But that's brought my true feelings to the surface. I find him very boring. I feel terribly mean for saying this, but we never really do anything. And the sex is dull. I'm always unsatisfied physically. Recently I did convince him to come out and do something, which we did. And he went home after without any sex. Which was actually lovely! It felt like we were actually friends. Although I do feel he only came along because i had recently told him off for ignoring my message and standing me up for weeks and threatened to call it off not knowing his step mum had died, because he didnt tell me. Which i dont think is much of an excuse and said this to his face as within the past 5 years i lost my brother and children. I tried to encourage simular the next time we met, but no plan was established and it fell through on both our parts, as he couldn't think of anything he could do (injury) and I grew too tired from work all week and didn't want to plan the second meet after I did the first. So the next time we met I just gave him his Christmas present, we did get laid. Then said goodbyes til after the new year as he's going home to be with his family. I guess this post is just about other people's experiences and views on this before we enter the new year. Is it ever possible to get a FWB physically compatible with you a bit more? Are those conversations seen as something too intimate and something strictly for relationships? Is it possible to have a conversation and change things to be more fun? Are these issues a lack in confidence? Or shall I leave this behind in 2024? Just so we are clear, I do not want a serious relationship with this man. He's not my type. He's very distant, as am I. But I like more lively emotional men for long term. I have always had relationships with men who know what they're doing in the bedroom too and aren't scared of small vibrators or oral sex as he is 😂 he doesn't have any hobbies really, and doesn't even seem willing to try and get them. Honestly, when I'm with him I feel I just spend hours listening to him about him! It is worth noting that I feel I've kept him around all this time as he's the only man I've ever had who hasn't caused personal issues in my life, and I like that quality about him. So can these conversations be had? Did he just put a little bit of effort in because he was in trouble with me... what's the deal here 🤔