[Not tagged advice but advice is welcome]

I find it increasingly frustrating to talk to and see people. (M4M for context)

I definitely won't say that I'm never submissive but I don't feel seen as anything else BUT that. I find it endlessly annoying when people I speak to (usually online) will immediately assume based on my appearance alone that I'm a submissive. I don't dress in a particularly cutesy way, but Im AFAB and short which is apparently enough.

I find it incredibly frustrating for me to form any sort of sexual or romantic relationship with people without having to "defy" their assumptions at some point and it just leaves me with a dreadful feeling where I can only anticipate disappointment. I've taken a break from dating and putting myself out there because I feel so unseen and misconstrued that it's embarrassing to even try.

Ive been on HRT a bit over a year. I pass. But I carry a "soft" look that causes me great frustration