Edit to add: I'm 36 married with 3 kids)

I came out to my mom yesterday. It wasn't as bad as I thought. But she's blaming herself. She says she was too young when she had us, she didn't build my self confidence and self image up. She says I didn't have any tendencies growing up that she noticed that I was male. She keeps asking me what happened 10 years ago that changed. Thing is, I don't even know what happened....I have no idea what or why it clicked it just did. She says she loves me and will support me if I transition (I haven't told her I've already started), but that in her heart she doesn't believe I'm male. She's also worried that 10 years from now I'll regret this, or what this means for my marriage and my kids. She told me to really think this through. I told her this is something I've been thinking and worried about for 10 years....I know it's new for her, but it's not for me. Problem is, and I knew this would happen....her fears and worries and questions are making me have the fears and worries and questioning all over again. This is so incredibly hard. She keeps asking me what if one of my kids comes to me in 30 years and says they're trans, what would I say or do. Problem is, I'd be 100% supportive. Times are different now. It wouldn't phase me. But I understand why it bothers my mom. I'm just really struggling with this today.