I don’t necessarily mean this in regards to being trans, but being a binary man in society in general.

I consider myself NB, but lately i’ve been questioning if that’s because I’m so used to my socialization as a woman that it’s hard to give up. I do observe and notice men have it harder in a lot of aspects. They’re expected to lead, and do more. Women aren’t taken as seriously, which sucks, but men are Expected to do manual labor and know how to fix things and it seems their value is placed more on what they can do and provide than just who they are as a person.

This is of course, a generalization. I know there are exceptions and i’ve met plenty of men who have found love and support in their own communities.

I guess I’m a bit scared of being thrusted into a role where I’m expected to know and do things I was never taught how to do. There are some aspects of womanhood I do like, like women trusting me and having that support and friendship easily. And not being overworked in my manual labor jobs because the assumption that I don’t have the same strength. (i do….take advantage of this one at times). Also as someone attracted to women, I feel like being a “masc lesbian” would make my dating life easier. These are all very shallow reasons to be scared of transitioning in a binary way, but I think they’re valid when you’ve gotten accustomed to a way of life. I see men struggle so much with isolation and mental health, and the lack of empathy they get. I am honestly scared of that, I already feel isolated enough as is.

So my question is, is it harder for you in some aspects as a binary man? I’m assuming the trade off of alleviating your dysphoria is worth it, but still, is there any parts of before that you missed?