Tw: domestic violence (and other sorts of violence)

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I try to stay out of internet arguments, but man, something has happened which has really pissed me off.

I keep getting targeted posts in my feed for a sub which mocks men who make jokes about gender or complain about their gender roles. Not really my cup of tea but whatever, fine. Many of the posts they mock are pretty obnoxious, so whatever if they laugh at them who cares.

However, a post recently came on my feed from that sub of a man pointing out that lesbians experience higher raates of domestic violence. Loads of people in the comments were saying "this shows lesbians experience it more including from male perpetrators, so actually, this just shows how awful men are." You know, the usual rhetoric.

The thing is, this is blatantly false. The study they were referring very clearly states on page 2 "Two thirds (67.4%) of lesbian women reported having only female perpetrators of intimate partner violence."

I know it shouldn't get to me, but it pisses me off a lot. When I was in the lesbian community I did see a substantial amount of abuse, and no on acknowledges it. They get so little fucking support because everyone believes women can't do that. Not to mention 50% of trans men experience domestic violence too and a fair few of us only date women. Women can hurt people ffs. Why is that so hard for people to comprehend?

Anyway, I wrote a comment correcting these claims people were making (just pointing out the statistics in the study) and it fucking got banned for "spreading misinformation". If it got banned for 'misogyny' or for 'violating the rules of the sub', or whatever, then that'd be one thing. Frustrating, but at the very least self aware or sm?? But the mods of this sub have either consciously decided to call me a liar while knowing I'm not one, or have not fucking bothered to read two fucking pages of the study then trying to call out "misinformation".

It's just Reddit. It shouldn't matter. But it kind of does get to me. People, for the rest of fucking time, who come across that post are going to see these blatant lies about lesbians' experience of sexual abuse / stalking / domestic violence, and are going to think it is factual because they won't read deeper. It is also so fucking typical of misandrists who happen to be straight cis women. Throwing their lesbian sisters under the bus because it doesn't fit their stupid "women good, men bad" narrative. Forcing their experiences onto everyone else. Despite being literally the most privileged group other than straight cis men.