I hate that trans sex is reduced to “man with a vagina.” If you don’t like vaginas, then you have a “genital preference.” However, most trans men, including myself, do not want anyone near their native genitalia.

And yet whenever trans people have sexual encounters, they’re expected to use their native genitals the way their AGAB would, with no regard to dysphoria. Cis gay men don’t want to touch vaginas, therefore sex with trans men is unimaginable. They assume to have sex with trans men, they would need to touch vaginas. But there are other ways to have a fulfilling sexual encounter.

Even if the trans man doesn’t have bottom dysphoria, you can still say you don’t want to touch him down there, and perform a different sexual act.

This whole “genital preference” narrative is ruining trans sex because it gives people the wrong impression of what sex with a trans person actually is. I hate words like gock/bussy for this very reason.

Trans sex does not have to involve native genitalia.