Sorry this will not be a short post. My wife has had a couple MFM with me earlier in our marriage. They were close friends first and they happened organically. Her last was a lifetime friend of mine and once we were married, one of her best friends. That turned into a 6 years affair that only ended because our friend got married. Since nothing organically happed to find her a new lover, I suggested that we try the apps and online. Regrettably that has been a nightmare. We would weed out a few promising people. We met with a couple guys for a coffee or drinks and each time they seemed rushed to get to the sex and one actually gave us some attitude when we explained that this was only a meet and greet. She wants to wait until we find someone without using the apps or sites. I told her that we just need to set the expectations upfront. So with that said we are looking for a healthy fit male around her age 43 who is interested in making friends with a married couple. This may or may not lead to a sexual relationship. If it does and I hope that it does, we are looking for a long term relationship. We have no interest in multiple partners, we want one reliable guy who is compatible with our lifestyle. We are both super healthy and athletic. Non smoking, social drinking is ok. We are into running, biking, scuba diving and traveling. We are financially secure and own a vacation home on an island. If you are single or in an open relationship of a ENM relationship you are welcome to message me the husband. If you are willing to make friends first, your reward would be a long term sexual partner who once there is trust, you can see as often as you like. I will always be present at first. Solo play will be allowed after a certain amount of trust is earned. I prefer to watch and not join in until after you leave or if you like a break I am happy to take over. There will be no male to male contact other then normal in a MFM Please do not respond if you are not in at least very good shape. Close to her age and looking for a similar situation.