I've been wondering for some time now if there is a direct connection between being neurologically different/disabled/disadvantaged. Recently I've been hesitant to try and question it out loud, but I decided to just take the plunge and get it out of my brain.

Looking back over the last 32 months of actively trying to find love and escape FA life, I have met, in real life, a number of openly disabled and neurologically-different men, aged 27-37, who I suspect are also FA or at least men who have expressed not being romantically successful beyond a brief girlfriend of a few months or have claimed to have been involuntarily single for more than 5 years.

I've also met a number of men (and women) who are openly neuro-divergent and/or disabled and in various steady relationships.

In my continued self reflection, social observations and psychological research, I can across the not so new concept of Personality Traits that may impact one's interpersonal success in relationships.

In simplistic terms: it was theorised that a personality can be identified by particular characteristics that can potentially be measured on a scale like system. The main characteristics are said to include levels of neurotism, extroversion, openess, agreeability, and conscientiousness.

When weighing up the core pillars of this personality trait theory against the men I specifically encountered (most of which I wanted to date and pursue a relationship with), I noticed a small theme.

Those with self proclaimed disabilities or neurological-divergence displayed low levels of agreeability, openness, and/or consciousness and higher levels of neuroticism and introversion.

When weighing up those same pillars against myself, I noted high levels of neurotism,agreeability and openess. And reasonably high levels of consciousness.

And so I ask myself, is there a direct link between these personality traits, disabilities, neuro-divergence, and ending up FA over 30?

Could this be why I am facing continued romantic rejection?

It's doubtless to say that being too neurotic, agreeable, and open would be harmful to any relationship. My own disabilities and experiences easily prove my highly neurotic, overly agreeable brain chemistry. And it is something I need to keeping working against to become a healthier person to be around.

Are you disabled and/or neuro-divergent?

How do you feel these theories apply to yourself and your FA circumstances?

Is there a direct link between our brains and our FA30 outcomes?

Does it matter? Should it matter?