Inspiring quote from Davos from Game Of Thrones. S6E10. Davos finds Shireen's burnt necklace while patrolling their encampment the night before the battle of the bastards. He confronts Melisandre about it the next episode with the above quote.

And this is exactly why I abandoned eternal conscious torment and became a universalist. If God burns people who don't follow him for all of eternity, he's evil. We don't even treat our worst criminals like that.

If God says we can freely choose to follow or reject him, but the conscience of rejection is a painful death, then it's clearly not a choice. It's a death threat. If your significant other said that, it would be abuse.