I've been looking for a dommy mommy for years and I seriously don't know what to do Im trying to find a dommy woman both in and outside the bdsm community. And I've been just disheartened by who I'm finding. In the bdsm community so many women think they can just be super disrespectful and sadistic and degrading right off the bat. Or just say there doms but then they reveal their only into findom. Outside the bdsm community honestly might sting worse because we go on a few dates really have a great time but after we discuss what were into i get ghosted everytime.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any experience in kinky relationships and how you got into one through the bdsm community or outside it?