My Husband M42 and me, F43 will be our 21st wedding anniversary soon! Yay! For the first 19 years or so of our marriage, we were having sex at least 3 times a week. Since then, we have dropped off to maybe that a month. We stopped kissing (french) and stopped oral and foreplay, started having sex "the lazy way." We are still madly in love, fully committed, just have gotten far too comfortable with each other. SO ... we have decided our anniversary this year (March) we are going away for 3 nights and calling it a sex getaway! We are fully committed and would never EVER open our bedroom to other people, but other than that we are OPEN! This week we had a bad weather day and everything was closed, so we were home together and we had the BEST day together! Watching a movie, snuggled in the covers with him, I grabbed him and he touched me. We played, like we did when we were just married. We spent the next two hours with oral, kissing, touching and slow sex. He stayed in me and we held hands and talked about how we could reinvigorate us (we both agreed that what we were doing was a start!) We agreed that this anniversary would be all about getting our sex life back on track. I suggested we have sex on our anniversary and leave the curtain open. I was SHOCKED when he agreed! We are PTO Mom and Team Coach Dad and this is way out of character for us. I was really turned on by this idea. I guess in my 40s I'm in full freak mode but, I suggested that we use the world for forplay. Maybe on our weekend give him a hand job under a table in a bar, not until he cums, just to ready him for later. Maybe pull up my skirt in the elevator for a quick screw up a few stories, or him eat me out in a stairwell. Again, I was COMPLETELY shocked he was open to it! Now, I just need ideas! Do you have ideas? Sex toys .. I prefer him and he prefers me, but we are open to trying. But, we have only found a bunny (clit stimulator), and lube we like. I have a dildo graveyard in the bottom drawer of our bedroom, I just prefer his dick, mouth and fingers. Are there any toys we should try? We've bought games, but they all seem boring. Any that you and your spouse enjoy? We talked about maybe doing porn type pics of each other (for only us). I guess what I'm asking is what ideas do you have? I want to reinvigorate our sex life. I want a weekend with him that makes us both think of each other sensually for a long time. A weekend that makes us long for lots of sex in this next chapter of our marriage. 21 years married, 22 together is a LONG time with sex with just one person, but we have a long way to go and need to get it spiced up for the next chapter. We aren't going to allow age, or laziness to take our marriage. We both want to enjoy each other sexualy. Sex is likely the one thing that differentiates our relationship from other relationships we have. We want to make it count. So, what suggestions do you have? What is something freaky for an old married couple (again, WILL NOT introduce any other person to our bedroom, otherwise, we are game!) Give us some ideas?