Context: Both mid-30s, dated for around 5 months, agreed to be bf/gf 2 months in, I was head over heels in love, he seemed to really like me at a point, things broke down in the final 2 weeks and he dumped me because he was “too burnt out/busy” to be in a relationship. No contact for 11 days so far. I’ve cried a lot and am experiencing depression. I’ve never been so crashed out over someone in my life, and I hate it and I want to move on. Hoping this unsent letter will help me to do that:

“Hey exbf,

Just want to start this by saying that, whatever you’re up to, I hope you’re happy. Don’t consider this message as me “reaching out” - this is just my attempt at closure. One sided closure if you will. I’m sure it would be a waste of time to try to get the full truth of what our relationship really was and what led to its end. Only you know. But I was all in. I thought we had a lovely connection that’s rare to come by, and was excited with the direction things were going. We got along so well. Everything was easy and I thought that meant we were right for each other. But I suppose it’s never that simple. Your breakup caused me profound hurt and confusion that’s been difficult to process. But I’m turning a new leaf and taking the steps to move on. Your phone numbers will be blocked by the time you’re done reading this. If it’s meant to be, we’ll find each other again.

Goodbye exbf.”