ive come to terms with the fact that i’m infatuated with a version of him that does not exist. i fantasize and live in the past. so recently i started setting boundaries for myself, which is to limit how much i think of him. but it feels like i think about him without even realizing that im thinking about him. it feels as easy as breathing. i started a code word for myself, which is to say “purple elephant” in my head and think of purple elephants whenever i find myself thinking about him. but usually i don’t catch myself until ive already wandered deep into the memory and im thinking about how much i still love him and stuff. do you guys have any suggestions to help me stop obsessively thinking about him?