Looking for advice on how to get involved in the lifestyle. I'm a straight, 49y/o male. Been married for 20 years, but it's been pretty rough for the past several years. Too many reasons right now not to divorce, so we just kinda go through the motions. Getting involved in the swingers lifestyle feels like a great way for me to explore on my own, individually. But for obvious reasons, anonymity is key.

Looking for advice on how and where to meet people (couples or females). So far, most accounts I interact with here are bots or OF creators. My main fear is meeting someone , them recognizing me,.and my secret is out. I have been told that swingers are a very close-knit group, and once you're in, you're safe. But it seems like there's some real risks just getting started. But I have to believe there are real people on here who can help me get started.

If your answer is "if you're married you shouldn't be looking..." you're right. And normally I would agree with you. But in my situation, it's what I feel is best, for me and my overall well-being.

If you're still reading, thank you. And if you have any helpful advice, I am all ears. Feel free to comment here directly, or DM if preferred.

Thanks!