Story time I get a lot of questions my inbox almost daily. Most of them are respectful and honest questions. Some are not but that’s not for this. And for reference the story of how I personally came into the lifestyle is in my earlier stories. A common one I get is “How do I convince my partner to step into this lifestyle”. Short answer is you can’t and even if you could there would be no one way for everyone. What I can answer is what has it done for me. I can say that standing in a crowded club barely clothed had given me confidence that I now carry into my vanilla life that can only come from an experience like that is both indescribable and irreplaceable.

My husband has always been irresistibly attractive and protective but even him I see differently. Both how amazing he is with me but also whoever we’re sharing a bed with for the moment. Gentle and protective.

Our first step into the life was probably the most common and comfortable way. Reddit first then other common online platforms. I ordered pretty things to wear that I felt my sexiest in. I found several I liked for not a lot of money. When I had “me time” I took pretty pictures that I used to send to my hubby when he was at work. But now in addition to that I was posting them online too. Flirting with strangers after being married some time does take practice. But my husband always told me and now I know to be true that a compliment hits different from a stranger than someone who’s been with me for so long. Reading comments and DMs I’ve gained more self confidence than I ever could imagine. I’ve also learned both what my boundaries are and can express them more clearly. I am now able to enjoy and explore in an environment that is safe and fun.

I’ve also got to see my husband, lover, protector now become my favorite pornstar and it’s fucking hot and in turn I love to put on a show for him. It’s taken our already amazing sex life to levels we didn’t know existed and communicate in ways we didn’t know we were capable of.

At the end of the day and beginning of the journey you both have to want this and support each others desires fully.