Hi folks, I am a trans man and am married to a cis woman who identified as a lesbian up until I transitioned and now considers herself pansexual. We will be married 9 years in a month. I transitioned 3 years into our marriage. Over the last 2 years she has made comments about what it would be like to be with a cis man. We talked about adding a third as a one time thing - but I’m not really into that. So we dropped it. But she keeps bringing it up. Our sex life has fizzled dramatically. She only can be satisfied if she is watching porn alone. I want her to be happy and satisfied. So I’m thinking that maybe bringing up ENM for her. I think that would give her freedom to explore her desires and then maybe she will find more fulfillment in our marriage. I don’t have a desire to go outside of our relationship. I need an emotional bond in order to be sexually interested in someone- so I think this would be more one sided for her - which I am okay with…. Mostly. I know rules are not the way and it’s all about personal boundaries. I just fear her getting emotionally connected with someone who also satisfies her sexually. But I know I can’t control that. Is this a bad idea?