I’m currently married and we’re ENM. My spouse is aware of my feelings for this FWB so that’s not the issue.

My FWB is single and normally in monogamous relationships. Our arrangement is friendship…with benefits. We went out for a first date and talked for hours. Then the first time I went to his house, we talked again for hours before having sex. Same the third time. And it’s not all superficial stuff. Of course there’s some NRE going on here but I feel certain enough that I’m catching feelings.

I feel like I should tell him because if he’s not interested in more than just friendship, I may need to step away so I don’t get hurt. But I also don’t know if it’s too soon to say it. I don’t want to come across as needy or clingy but I also can’t help the way I feel.

(I haven’t had these feelings like this with every guy I’ve seen in the past so I know it’s not just general new partner excitement)