I am looking for some advice as to how to get more comfortable with the lifestyle. My husband is very into the lifestyle and has said on many occasions that he’d like to see me with another man although I’m not all that comfortable with letting someone in our marriage. We have role played and it turns me on, I’ve sexted other guys (with his consent and even with him watching/while we do stuff together) but we had to pump the breaks after inviting someone over because of both emotional issues and we both got a bit nervous about allowing someone in.

My husband is also the only person to make me finish although not my first so I think I have some reservations about enjoying it when it isn’t him. Although he says he is okay I worry about getting to that point and we both aren’t 100% okay.

Ultimately, I am turned on by the idea, the roleplaying, and have even had dreams about doing it. However, I can’t seem to follow through with it because it feels like a huge leap from sexting to actually having someone come into our place even if it’s a hotel and being that vulnerable. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get more comfortable…may be a stupid question 🤷🏼‍♀️.