Hubby and I are venturing into the ENM space. We are really committed to each other, but he is bi and I want him to be able to explore that side if himself freely. We have been very clear about our boundaries. I have no problem with him seeking solo encounters. I have been a little slower getting into the space because frankly my drive is much lower and I have a few chronic health issues that flare and cause me to be a bit blah.

Hubby has been very adamant about me getting on sites to start getting more confidence regarding my body, and start to look for someone to join us. Now the issue, he seems very shocked at the amount of attention I am getting. I was using the Lovenese app, which he encouraged me to do with him in the room and I look over to find him googling how to deal with being jealous. Now he is being very closed off and pouting because: "he has been on apps for months and only has 3 likes im on for a day and have 60 "

I need advice on 2 things; first how do I affirm that he is my primary and I have no intention of changing that. I have no intention of solo play at all and how do I affirm his feelings?

Second, im really hurt because a) it feels like he didn't expect me to get attention and that makes me think he feels im not attractive enough to worry about and b ) its very unfair that he is playing with other in person and online but I get pouty sulky nonsense when I am talking to folks.

Thank you all in advance for your advice! I am open to suggestions on forums or books as well.