With the help of our marriage counselor, my husband and I have opened to the idea of ENM. My husband joyfully lives without sex nor does he want to have sex ever again. Meanwhile, I’m a highly sexual woman that enjoys fun and adventurous sex. Long story short: I desire fun, companionship, commitment and great sex in an ENM relationship.

As an attractive Black woman in my 50’s married to an older man, I have consistently blocked advances from other men of various ages and ethnicities over the years. Even though I’ve been lonely and sexless, I was (am)committed to my marriage. I only want to consider a relationship(s) with someone who is mature and also in a committed ENM marriage.

The idea of ENM sounds promising and challenging at the same time. I have so many questions (how do I remain safe, how to bring this up w/ other men, how do I maintain respect in my relationships, etc). I don’t want to romanticize the idea of ENM but I also want to enjoy the process.

Just getting started and I’m open to sound advice and insight.

Thank you!