Our relationship is newer, but they were upfront about being non-monogamous beforehand. This is my first relationship so I have no experience with either ENM or monogamous dating. My partner ended a relationship earlier this year and discovered that they were poly.

I’m looking for some advice and the existing posts on the subreddit don’t feel very similar to my situation. I lack experience in the bedroom so I can only assume they’re having a better time with others. I’ve had conversations with them about my self-image and they insist they’re attracted to me, but the people they want to hookup with look nothing like me so I have a hard time believing that. I don’t want to beat a dead horse by bringing up boundaries and how I feel about ENM every time we see each other. I feel very strongly about them.

How have you overcome not feeling like enough or believing that your partner is still in love with/attracted to you?