My partner said he had the boundary that I canāt get pregnant by someone else. Which is totally reasonable and I agreed. Thatās not something I want by any means. I said Iād take any and all necessary precautions.
He asked what Iād do if I was that 0.1% that still ends up pregnant. I told him that Iād probably keep it bc ik that I couldnāt handle abortion. He said he would leave if that happened. I told him Iād be devastated, but ultimately Iād respect it.
Now heās saying that by having male partners, Iām willing to jeopardize our relationship. That if I got pregnant, Iād be choosing the other partner over him and that hurts. I tried explaining it wouldnāt be choosing the other partner, itād be choosing the baby. But he doesnāt hear me.
He said that he wants me to want our relationship enough to make the choice myself to not engage with men & take that risk. Which, to me, sounds like a round about way of saying he wants a one š policy.
What do I do? Am I doing something wrong here?
Iām 27, heās 31. We want children in the future together, so any bc that would be permanent is off the table. I am taking bc, using condoms and tracking my cycles with apps OPKs (to avoid fertile days). Iām doing everything in my power to prevent it. Heās just running with this scenario.
Absolutely and I donāt want to change his mind on anything. The part that doesnāt sit well with me is the round about mess of it all. Like heās testing things.
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I shouldāve mentioned in the post that heās a trans man so he canāt impregnate anyone. But he intends to sleep with who he wants.