So I'm in a pickle. My partner (37F) and me (39M) have a rule that we're only allowed to sleep with someone new when we're able to see each other within the next couple of days to talk about it and reclaim each other.

I recently met someone new and we're spending the night tonight. My partner knows this but I won't be able to really see her for another nine days. On top of that she's seeing a partner of hers in two days and they're very likely going to end that relationship. This situation and some unrelated issues have been quite depressing for her lately.

She gave me that go-ahead for my date and whatever might happen without me asking for it but was obviously very reluctant.

What would you do? Abstain from sex although technicly it's allowed? This might upset my date because I'm bringing my partner's problems up. Go ahead and enjoy the date because my partner said she's "fine" with it?